This Tuesday’s circle, a wonderful being shared “I ask myself: Why do I have to do [do something distasteful] every day?”
We shared an insight about the question to ask, to get out of this bewildering maze.
‘Why’ questions are plaintive; and take us back into a seemingly unending thread of causation. Was it a past life problem? Karma? Duty? This can lead to the ‘should-would-could-have to-must’ trap.
So, let’s focus on our perspective. What is it that we are looking for? A way out of the feelings of intense discomfort and distaste. Ask another question.
Replace the question ‘Why’ with ‘What can I’ and ‘How can I’.
‘Why is this happening to me?’ spirals you into an unending stream of questions, a maze that is difficult to get out of. It takes you backwards to a source that does not help you.
First, ask ‘What can I do to make this situation better for me?” or “How can I make this situation better?” and solutions will come forth. It is like entering a labyrinth that keeps leading you to your goal.
Do this in a meditative way, entering this space with letting go, and you will emerge with gratitude.
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